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Natureza Gabriel's avatar

Micro-cosm of the collaboration we have undertaken. An essential distillation. Novel for me to consider, "In species-normal conditions (small-band egalitarian hunter-gatherers; Narvaez, 2013), the self actualizes in babyhood." This feels to me to address the developmental fractality (self-similar at varying stages of development, not scale in this case) of the nest.

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"So now we have a world full of half-baked ‘needy’ people, many without an inner moral compass except ‘what suits me in this moment,’ or ‘what helps me/mine win,’ or what an authoritative script or figure tells them is right."

Yes. I didn't know how much I lacked an "inner moral compass" until I finally left a community that wouldn't accept me outside of my codependent "hero child" role at the service of a few of the community's key members. I hurt people by my complicit silence, and I asked and received forgiveness from those people just before I left.

Two weeks after I left, I woke up with my conscience on fire. I was disloyal, it told me. I had forsaken the group. But I had the inspiration to read Paul Tillich, the existentialist philosopher and theologian, on the issue of innocence. The key passage (Theology of Culture, pg. 141) for me that night:

". . . every moral act involves a risk. The human situation itself is such a risk. In order to become human, man must trespass the 'state of innocence,' but when he has trespassed it he finds himself in a state of self-contradiction. . . . A morality which plays safe, by subjecting itself to an unconditional authority, is suspect. It has not the courage to take guilt and tragedy upon itself. True morality takes guilt and tragedy upon itself. True morality is a morality of risk."

My conscience had internalized an external authority. I was full of what Tillich calls "moralisms"--rules from an external authority that one must live by. If I manage to follow those rules pretty well, I remain "innocent." But I never develop the inner moral compass you speak of.

So, late in life, I'm freer from the effects of my primal wounding. Hopefully, in the moment of political choice, I'll be among the unpredictable you speak of.

And, yes! There's a political connection between primal wounding and authoritarianism. In this respect, your essay is close to Hannah Arendt's notion of the "banality of evil," a phrases that many don't like in part because of its suggestion that any civilized person, by virtue of their civilized upbringing, is capable of great harm.

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